We can live too long!
My wife (who will be 78 this month) fell getting out of the dentist chair a few weeks ago. She got home but was in so much pain I called an ambulance to take her to the hospital. With her collection of titanium joints, rods, cages and miscellaneous screws and hardware there was concern that she might have broken something. Multiple CAT scans, X-Rays and MRIs showed no damage to any of her hardware or bones---they did find a very large deep hematoma in her groin. She spent a week in the hospital and now has been two weeks at a rehab facility. She is scheduled to be released next week.
All of that is needed to understand where this is going. My wife---much to her dismay, has a roommate (my wife is a bit of a diva). The thought of having a roommate was a real downer---until she met her roommate---Mabel. Mabel is 100 years old and mentally sharp and physically very good for being 100. Mabel fell at her nursing home and they sent her to this rehab to recover. Mabel has two children, both in their 80s who visit regularly. Mabel is struggling, not with her physical frailties but her forced return to childhood. She wants to stay were she is now but is unable to because of a vast “conspiracy” against her.
Mabel has quickly grown close to my wife, who has assumed the position of advocate for Mabel. Tonight, Mable was crying because she knows my wife will be discharged next week and at this point my wife represents Mable’s best chance to exercise some control over her “life”. Mable sees herself as the “victim without malice” of the doctors, her kids, Medicare et al. Nowhere is Mabel included in that “circle of interest” making decisions for her.
This week I saw pictures of Jimmy Carter “celebrating” his 100th birthday---only I’m not sure Jimmy knew that. A previous outing for the funeral of Rosalynn had Jimmy in the same rolling “bed” in the same apparent condition.
Mabel is physically doing much better than Jimmy---but practically they are in the same boat---they aren’t on the bridge and have no chance of ever going back there. They will be told were the boat is heading---not asked.
To me---that truly is a fate worse than death.
"A pessimist sees the difficulty in every opportunity, an optimist sees the opportunity in every difficulty” ---Sir Winston Churchill
"Political extremism involves two prime ingredients: an excessively simple diagnosis of the world's ills, and a conviction that there are identifiable villains back of it all." ---John W. Gardner
“You can’t go back and change the beginning, but you can start where you are and change the ending.” ---C. S. Lewis